Can We Stop Being Anxious About Being Anxious The School of The Martinez Twins – Free Ebook

NARRATOR: As teenagers,

Spanish twins,
Emilio and Ivan Martinez

moved thousands of miles to LA,

where they became
hugely famous

for making content.

But living far from home
in a house of other teenagers

filled them with anxiety

that they are still
struggling with.

-We were 17. We were young.
-We were young.

We were young, and…

and that’s…

that’s where we started
being anxious ’cause…

we were down
and we didn’t know
how to handle it.



The School of Life is sending

some of YouTube’s
most popular creators

on a series of field trips,

to explore some of philosophy’s
most intriguing ideas.

This time,
the Martinez Twins…

♪ Martinez Twins ♪

♪ We’re about to hit it ♪

NARRATOR: …best known
for their online videos,
blogs and pranks,

are looking at anxiety.

An issue the twins…

have had to deal
with themselves.

I think for us,
anxiety is
the biggest problem

-we have right now.

Anxiety has replaced depression

as the number one
mental health issue.

For many people,
it’s characterized

as overwhelming feelings
of loneliness,

inadequacy and failure.

Magnified by social media

with its never-ending images
of unattainable perfection.

In this video,

we’re going to discover

how the Martinez Twins
experience the situation

that sent their anxiety levels
through the roof.

They’ll discover more about
what makes them anxious,
and why.

And then we’ll learn
some practical steps
we can all take

to help us avoid anxiety.

But first…

A 60-second guide
to anxiety.

We live in a time
of high anxiety,

with social media providing
constant updates

on just how much
fun and success
everyone else is having.

Why is everyone else
enjoying a better career,

more friends, nicer stuff
and better sex than we are.

It’s the age of ultimate FOMO.

But there’s nothing new
about our constant
state of anxiety.

Being anxious
is just who we are.

Countless generations
of evolution

have favored the survival
of the natural-born warrior.

-The ones who didn’t worry,
got eaten by wild animals.

-But there is an antidote,

of sorts. Previous cultures

could draw upon deep wells
of spirituality

to assure them
that everything was fine.

They didn’t worry
about every little detail

because they believed
that ultimately

they were part
of a bigger plan.

A tiny cog in a giant machine.

Can we rediscover
that freedom from anxiety

by letting go of our egos?

Finding relief
and even taking delight

in the knowledge that
it’s not all about us.

Accepting that we
and everyone else on the planet

are just fallible
imperfect warriors

won’t stop us
from being anxious,

but could it stop us
being anxious

about being anxious?

EMILIO: We were born in Spain

and we started making videos
on the internet,

having fun, and we didn’t know

-this was about…
-…to be our life.

Having built a following
at home in Spain,

the Martinez twins
moved to America,

to join a group
of other young influencers

who lived together
in a house in Los Angeles.

Within just three months,
their fan base soared

from 400,000 subscribers
to over three million.

[CROWD CHANTING] Go, Martinez!
Go, Martinez!

NARRATOR: But the environment
they found themselves in

became hugely stressful
for the 17-year-olds.

Away from home
for the first time,

barely speaking English,

and without any family support,

the twins experienced
overwhelming feelings
of anxiety.

And moved back to Spain,

where they stopped
creating content altogether.

I want to say thank you
to, um, our fans.

-We love you guys so much.
-Bye, guys.


So, where does the feeling
of anxiety actually come from?

Dean Burnett is a doctor
of neuroscience,

who explains
the physical origin
of anxiety

in the evolution of the brain.

A lot of this anxiety is down to

how our brains have
evolved and developed,

but they’ve done this over
millions of years.

Of course, the modern world
is only a few 100 years old,

and our brains simply haven’t
had the time to develop

ways to recognize
and cope with modern threats,
dangers and issues

which cause anxiety.

So, if you see the brain here,

this part at the top there,
that’s the neocortex.

That’s the most complex
part of the brain.

That’s the human
part of the brain

where all our imagination
and planning

and thinking
and language comes from.

That’s relatively new,

and evolved less than
two million years ago.

Whereas this part here,
the limbic system in the middle,

that’s where the threat
response comes from.

That’s like 50 million
years old or older.

That’s from a time when
we were primitive creatures.

We were constantly encountering
predators and dangers and risks.

Whereas now we have taken
control over the world.

And as a result of this,

the fundamental
parts of our brain

which control the fear
and anxiety response,

they don’t really
have the ability

to tell the difference between

-being chased by a lion…
-IVAN: Mmm-hmm.

DEAN: …and the possibility
of putting a video online

-that people don’t like
and having a negative reaction.

So, the brain responds
to these things

in the same way
when it shouldn’t.

People your age are actually
far more prone to anxiety

because the parts of your brain

which tell those
fundamentals bits,

“Keep quiet, calm down,”
those are still developing.

EMILIO: We thought that
we were the only ones…

-IVAN: Yeah.
…at these situations.

It’s a common thing, like,
a lot of people have it.

You’re not alone.

NARRATOR: Understanding
that our brains are hard-wired
to make us feel anxious

is the first step to learning
that anxiety is natural,
not abnormal.

We need to learn to accept it.

But we also need
to learn to cope with it.

Dr. Elena Touroni
is a consultant psychologist

who specializes in treating
anxiety disorders.

Unusually, for such
inseparable identical twins,

Emilio and Ivan
are taking turns
to confide in Elena.

While we were in the US,

we were working everyday.

There was a lot of pressure.

I don’t wanna fail.

And if I fail,
I don’t want my brother to fail.

And my mind thinks,

“If you don’t wanna fail,
just don’t do it.”

One thing that I noticed is
that both you and your brother

mentioned, sort of,
very powerfully,

this idea of wanting to get out
of the situation.

-IVAN: Mmm-hmm. Yeah.
-Kind of run away
from the situation,

which is very typical
of anxiety.

Whenever we’re
feeling threatened,

we want to escape.

If you were able to challenge
that negative thought,

and giving yourself
a positive message,

“Look, it will be okay.”

We’ve done this a few times,

people really enjoy watching us.

And even if something was
to go wrong momentarily,

you and your brother will be
able to find a way to recover.

It’s really important
not to become too worried

about being worried,

It’s very straightforward

to, kind of, get help

-with feelings of anxiety.
-EMILIO: Mmm-hmm.

Very simple techniques,

such as deep breathing,

can make a very big difference
to relieving feeling of anxiety.

NARRATOR: Mindfulness
is the process
of focusing the mind

on experiences
in the present moment,

and one of the most effective
ways of combating anxiety.

Veronika Rakli
teaches relaxation
through aerial yoga.

Can she help the twins
relieve their anxieties

by learning to experience
the joy of the present.

What brought you here today?

-To feel safe…

…when I feel anxious.

So, this is what aerial yoga
can help with,

to soothe the body.

Sitting in hammocks helps you
to feel more secure.

More safe.

Because you can create
your own bubble

around your body.

It is only you, your mind,
your body.

You are present in the moment
and you are present in the body.

And how do you feel now?

I feel relaxed.

-I almost fell asleep.
-IVAN: Yeah.

This really works.

‘Cause you gotta be focusing
on what you’re doing.

And your mind
is, like, really clear.

And I feel great.

We can all learn to cope
with anxiety

and live calmer lives

by doing five simple things.

We do too much,

and then complain
that our lives
are too hectic.

But what registers as anxiety

is often the mind’s plea

not to be
continuously overstimulated.

We all need to accept
that we can’t do it all.

We need proper sleep,

at least seven hours
every night.

News organizations speak
of our need to know.

But often we have
a greater need not to know.

There’s nothing we can do
about the exploits,

disasters and triumphs
of strangers we’ll never meet.

We need to switch off
and concentrate

on things closer to home
that we can affect.

Anxiety’s the mind’s revenge

for all the thoughts
we try to suppress.

We need to allocate time
where we have nothing to do,

other than sift through
the chaotic contents
of our minds.

Every hour of living

requires at least ten minutes
of sifting.

It would be nice to be rich,
famous and successful.

But it might be wiser
to recognize

that a truly satisfying life

can be had living modestly

and far away
from the maniac competition

to win the professional
status race.

EMILIO: Being anxious
made us escape
from social media.

And that is a thing
that we love to do.

IVAN: If this happens to you,

I wanna say to you guys

-that you guys are not alone.

IVAN: This can be controlled,

and you can handle it
and you can change it.

There’s a new future on us.

-We’re gonna go out,
we’re gonna have fun.
-EMILIO: Yeah.

And we’re not gonna worry
about worrying,

which is really important.

Hey, guys.

If you like this episode…

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